I’m often asked whether I offer dating and relationship coaching for single men dating after 40. But I DO help men by helping women who are dating after 40. )One of the most transformational ways I support women is by helping you better understand GROWNUP men.The vast majority of these guys are not the self-centered, testosterone-led, immature boys you met (and maybe married) in your 20s or 30s. )If you’ve read my e Book, 7 Secrets to Finally Finding Love after 40, you know that I believe that empathizing with men is essential to your dating and relationship success.Her life isn’t going the way she wants and she just can’t figure out why.With men, she might complain that they just “don’t get her,” but the truth is that she’s giving them every reason to head for the hills with her off-handed comments and negativity.
The Sexpot offers herself up on the first date and is offended if her date doesn’t partake. Relationship-minded men may also say “yes” even though they may feel somewhat emasculated or turned off by her aggressiveness.She gets stuck in affairs with men who never commit, and it’s often the nice guys who are interested in her who bear the brunt of her hurt and anger.The Scaredy Cat he Scaredy Cat has been emotionally wounded by men in the past, and she can’t let go of it.She mistrusts men and often blames herself for the rejection she’s felt, believing that she just wasn’t good enough.She says things like “I need him to say he wants a relationship, and then I’ll open up,” or “Once he gets to know me, he probably won’t like me.”The Scaredy Cat may put her guy through lots of tests before she feels confident that he’s truly interested.Learn more about each Femitype, starting with The Princess right here. Oh, and girlfriend, you can learn a TON from the comments men have left below! The Bitter Gal The Bitter Gal is angry — usually about everything, but especially about men. A guy never has a chance, even he is the nicest guy in the world and really likes her.(Which usually doesn’t last very long since, no matter how pretty and smart she is, she is no fun to be around.)The truth is that The Bitter Gal has been playing the victim for most (if not all) of her life.She hasn’t mastered the life skill of introspection, so she’s blinded by her bitterness.It doesn’t occur to her that she might be the problem even though every date and relationship seems to end the same way.(Guys, if you’re reading this…get in touch if you want to share!)Below are the common types of women single grownup men have told me about. Read the general description of each here, or start reading more about each Femitype, starting with The Princess — click here.Like you, the men you’re dating have lived and learned. The only way you can empathize is to know their side of the story.