In reality, it will only serve to make your new partner feel like “the other woman” even though you are divorced.It also reinforces your HCP ex’s false belief that she still maintains the numero uno position in your life. Have you been trying to get your man to propose or agree to be exclusive?
He described divorcing his HCP first wife as “being paroled from prison.” While going through his divorce, he met a woman who he thought was “the ONE.” In his estimation, he’d finally found someone who could offer all the love and affection he’d been missing during his 6-year prison-sentence of a marriage.In hindsight, this relationship was his “transitional” relationship; a relationship that helped re-build his self-esteem until he realized it wasn’t meant to be a long-term proposition.I share this with you because it’s important to be cognizant of this phenomenon and not over-commit to the first woman who shows you kindness.My husband’s ex insisted that I call and introduce myself to her (a.k.a. She tried to position herself as the matriarch of their now-defunct family and make me one of her “subjects.” I refused and insisted that my husband introduce me to her in person, you know, like normal people do.Men, try to treat your new relationship as you would have treated any new relationship before your HCP ex taught you to walk on eggshells.And even though the ink on your divorce decree has long since dried, the HCP believes you are still her “property” and that she should come first, even if she has to mask her demands by superimposing them onto your children.This means that HCPs continuously draw their exes into their internal turmoil and drama regardless of the divorce and subsequent re-coupling.For a limited time, we’re offering you a 40-minute session as a special gift. Get the support of a caring, knowledgeable Love Mentor Dating Coach who will help you make your love dreams a reality.Sign up for your FREE session now by filling out the form below.Before you can venture wholeheartedly and honestly into the dating world, it’s important that you develop the ability to uphold boundaries around yourself, your dating life, your extended family and your children. Before you begin dating, please keep the following factors in mind: 1) Separate lives means , other than information you’re court-ordered to provide if you share children.Your ex no longer gets to dictate how you spend your time and with whom.We want to be sure we connect with you, so please check that your email address and phone number are correct before you submit the form.In her first Shrink4Men article, Peppy shares lessons she learned after meeting and marrying a man who was once married to Crazy.Your extended family also needs to leave the past behind and not burden your new partner with lengthy discussions or reminiscing about your HCP ex.