Wandering around Tokyo it’s not at all unusual to see foreign men with Japanese girlfriends, but it’s much rarer to see foreign women with Japanese men.
You might think it ridiculous to change your style in order to get a guy, but if you’re serious about wanting a Japanese boyfriend, you’re going to need to think about how you wear your clothes.Japanese people show their feelings through actions rather than words.Whereas in many Western countries it wouldn’t be shocking for a girl to come out and say “I like you” straight to a guy’s face, in Japan this is still considered rather unconventional.Standard qualification about this answer being a gross generalization, and in no way applying to every individual or every case…Japanese guys aren't nearly as interested in foreign women as Japanese women are in foreign guys, in my experience.Speaking speculatively, I think this is because gender roles are still very important in Japan, and views are a few decades behind the west.Many seemed to be interested in cultural differences and resulting problems in the relationship between a foreign woman and a Japanese man.Although I’ve been in Japan for 6 years now, I totally lack that kind of experience.Most guys want a girl who is smaller than themselves so they can feel manly and protective, and as most Japanese guys are themselves quite slim, their girls have to get pretty tiny. And don’t be too forward with your flirting – keep it subtle. The advice Madame Riri puts forward is to pull rather than push him towards you.However, when it comes to height it seems like there’s no defining trend; some guys like their girls short, others like them tall. In the West we’re used to big breasts being – on the whole – the way to go, but a guy here is less likely to mention a huge pair of knockers when asked what he would want in his ideal woman. This is probably the essence of her advice; that foreigners can be too brash and in-your-face for the average Japanese man, who wants a meek, quiet lady on his arm, at least in the beginning when trying to make their approach and tensions are high.Instead I asked friends and fellow bloggers, who have had Japanese boyfriends or are even married to a Japanese man, to share their personal experience with us.It was an interesting journey and I want to thank all of the participants for taking the time to tell us about their own unique story.” And perhaps some of them would be more than a little creeped out at the thought of a girl changing herself so profoundly just in order to bag a Japanese boyfriend.Then again, it might give some people a bit of an ego boost, who knows?“I moved to Japan when I was 18 and have been dating Asian guys ever since. I often hear girls who long for Asian boyfriends say that Western guys are dogs, and I can confidently say that Asian men are no different.