I’m so disappointed in myself that even just the thought of it makes me blush with shame. I realize that sentiment is hardly groundbreaking or remotely original, but you’re trying to sell yourself to someone else, convince them that you’re worth their time and hope that they’ll convince you of the same.
So on the few occasions that I admitted that I’m married but separated, I’ve had to get into the details of why this is the case.
” It's complicated, even though we don't have any children or shared assets.
While no one gets divorced overnight (as if it just magically happens when you realize you never want to see that person again), in our case it’s taking longer than it should.
That way, should the topic come up later, I can actually say, “Oh, I told you, didn’t I? I struggle enough with the fact that my marriage came to an end after just a year and a half, that my husband cheated on me, and left me for a girl 28 years his junior, just two years older than his daughter from a previous marriage.
I guess you just didn’t hear me.”Being married, but separated, is no picnic. All of that is embarrassing, no matter how you slice it or how many times friends and family tell me that he’s the one who should be embarrassed.