Her advice is to be as open and honest as possible, but make sure you’re also prioritizing yourself and your mental health.
” I pause letting the information sink in while I sit down on my faded, tan couch.
Hasha says that the two keys to maintaining your friendship are communication and boundaries.
“Remember that if you truly care for your friend, their friendship is valuable, even as romantic relationships come and go,” she says.
According to Hasha, any type of communication is better than none at all.
If your friend wasn’t aware of your crush, you might need to explain where you’re coming from a bit more, but it’s still a good idea to share.
“If they are a true friend, they will understand and may even be more sensitive than expected,” she explains.06.
When people are overwhelmed with feelings like anger, hurt, or jealousy, it can be tempting to lash out.
She suggests leading with the following: “Hey, I'm not sure if you knew, but I really liked [name of person].
I'm happy that you two seem to have found happiness together, but please understand it may take some time for me to feel comfortable with it.”05.
In Hasha’s opinion, it’s completely acceptable for you to communicate that hurt, but she advises to “stay away from accusatory statements like ‘You totally stabbed me in the back!
’” She notes that accusing your friend like this might make them defensive.