There is even an entire surah (chapter) named Al Talaq (The Divorce).Marriage in Islam is a beautiful way for two people to bring together their families, heritage and culture for the purpose of bringing more little Muslims into the world, in love, commitment and dedication to Allah, His Book, His prophet, peace be upon him, and surrender to Him in peace (Islam).The unrealistic expectation that young people have is what often contributes to the failure of their relationship.DATINGOne of our current scholars told us, “Dating prepares us – NOT for marriage, but for DIVORCE.Does she adhere to the Islamic Hijab prescribed by Shari’ah?If the lady you want to marry is religious, of good manners, and obeys Allah and His Messenger, and both of you want to please Allah in this world in order to earn reward in the Hereafter, then you have made a perfect choice, and we ask Allah to fulfill your hopes and bring you together in a good way.The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, recommended the suitors to see each other before going through with marriage procedures.That is very important because it is unreasonable for two people to be thrown into marriage and be expected to have a successful marital life, full of love and affection, when they know nothing of each other. This ruling does not contradict the Qur’anic verse that says, “…believing men and women should lower their gaze” (An-Nur: 30).
As the Hadith says: “When a man and a woman are together alone, the Shaytan (Satan) makes their third.”One of the conditions of a valid marriage is the consent of the couple.After being “involved” with a person for a time, and then breakiing up and going through the feelings of remorse or loneliness and unhappiness, and then moving on to the next “relationship” and then another break-up, hard feelings, sadness and then yet another series of dating, hanging out, breaking up and so on.Definitely a married couple who have both been in “relationships” prior to marriage, falling in love, arguing, breaking up and then going through the sad feelings and repeating this over and over, are much more likely to end up in a very rough marriage and very possible divorce.The romantic notions that occupy the mind of young people often have proven in most cases to be unrealistic and harmful to those involved.We only have to look at the alarming divorce rate in the West to understand this point.There is no room in Islam for illicit affairs or the Western vogue-word of boyfriend and girlfriend.All those stories of media and movies are not helpful to make a person comply with the teachings of Islam.Question #1The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, says: “Three qualities, if found in a person, will help him have perfect faith: Having Allah and His Messenger, peace and blessings be upon him, as the most beloved ones, loving a person only for the sake of Allah and hating getting back to Kufr (disbelief) the way one hates to be thrown into fire.” That means love is a fruit of piety. There is no concept of courtship in Islam as it is practiced in the West.There is no dating or living in de facto relationship or trying each other out before committing to each other.The Prophet, peace and blessings of Allah be upon him, said: “A woman may be married for four things: her wealth, her lineage, her beauty and her commitment to religion.Choose the one who is religious, may your hands be rubbed with dust [i.e., may you prosper]! Dear brother in Islam, we hope that the main points of the issue have become clear.There is to be no physical relationship whatsoever before marriage.From an Islamic perspective, in choosing a partner, the most important factor that should be taken into consideration is Taqwa(piety and consciousness of Allah).Now, let’s assume that you are the person mentioned in your question: On what basis would you like to choose your partner?