The question is: When is jealousy appropriate, how much, and when is it a good sign?
One of the greatest gifts we get from being in a relationship is that it encourages us to grow in ways that we may not have grown if we were single.
The reason I’m telling you all this is because, before I came to this realization myself, it would have been impossible for me to think about my jealousy rationally.
It is nearly every man’s worst fear to be the chump of a situation.
From the perspective of evolution, that man’s genes become extinct from the gene pool.
Genetically speaking, this is death – his genes do not pass on, he is weeded out from a future genetic legacy.
It’s like I’m being punished for a crime I didn’t commit. You could even go so far as to call jealousy a good sign in certain contexts.and no impact on my ability to experience happiness, peace or fulfillment. Sure, they will have some elaborate rationalization for why they did what they did.As with all things in relationships, the most painful areas are the ones where we feel like another person’s actions These days I have a motto about people and relationships: People will always do whatever they want. Regardless of how they feel afterwards or what they say to explain themselves, the fact remains true for all humans: People will always do whatever they want.This could be triggered by that man touching her in some way or giving her a hug.Women are most jealous when they perceive some sort of emotional connection between the man she’s with and another woman.It is worth pointing out why jealousy is part of our emotional makeup…Biologically speaking, a man wouldn’t want to fall in love with a woman who cheats on him and is impregnated by another man, and then raise a child or children that are not his genetic seed.Letting go of my own jealousy issues, insecurities, and fears was part of my own growth in relationships.In my early twenties, the thought of being cheated on was a nightmare scenario for me.MORE: How to Stop Being Jealous Like I say time and time again, the real world is the greatest teacher of all.Life has a way of teaching you that when you don’t take 100% responsibility for your emotions, actions, and reactions, you end up suffering…Obviously I wouldn’t be happy with being cheated on if it happened to me now, but I wouldn’t take it personally.I wouldn’t interpret it as meaning something about me, like I was less of a man, a fool, or a chump.It isn’t a worry or fear that keeps me up at night.