Just because someone else has a boyfriend or an apartment or a dream job, does not mean that you cannot have those things too.
When you look at the world from a place of abundance then the fear of not enough vanishes and with it your own insecurities.
Why do we make fun of fellow gay men who are different from us just for being themselves?Tagged best gay blog, best gay blogger, best gay style blog, gay advice, Gay Blog, gay blogger, Gay Dating Advice, gay lifestyle, GAY LIFESTYLE BLOG, Gay style, gay style blog, gay tips, luxury gay blog, premium gay blog There’s a surefire way to test whether a guy is firstly gay and secondly whether or not he’s into you.In today’s video, I recount an episode on the tube which taught me a valuable lesson about meeting gay guys and left me pining over the one that got away.While I think it’s beautiful to be in a loving relationship and I certainly wouldn’t mind it for myself, I don’t think we need to be miserable in the meantime.My Facebook newsfeed is often full of gay guys lamenting themselves for being single or congratulating each other when their relationship status changes.While some people need the security that a relationships brings to their life, I’m content being alone.I refer to myself as a ‘social loner’ – a person who enjoys socialising, spending time with friends and making news friends but who is just as happy, perhaps even happier, being alone.Instead of wishing failure on your fellow gay man, you honour his achievements which in turn actually empowers you to go after your own. So if you’re ever the victim of a mean gay then now you know that he himself is actually suffering.A person who sees the world from a secure, abundant space will never be threatened by another’s triumphs nor will he find reason to be mean to his gay brethren.Something else happens when you see the world from a perspective of abundance – you actually begin to see people differently too.People’s successes do not cause you shame or jealously but act as an example of what can be achieved.What if I don’t feel like talking after a long day at work? From friends, to work, to spirituality and community, I have created for myself the things that I need to keep me satisfied. Well I can find that too, although I’ve learnt from experience that sometimes it’s easier and less complicated to satisfy one’s self in this department.It all stems from my belief that we are whole as we are and that there is no need to wait to find our ‘other half’ before we can feel wholeness.This is one of the most dangerous myths of our time, that we need someone else to save us or we will never be saved.