In fact, Western society does its best through a culture of shaming, bullying, crass images of masculinity and dismal media portrayals of fathers to teach us men that we're just not going to be successful parents.We don't tote babies around when we're little, we aren't the one hired to babysit the twins down the street when we're in our teens, we're instead pushed to physical activities, sports, video games and other activities that emphasize the testosterone factor rather than help us learn how to balance it with the more traditionally "feminine" aspects of humanity.
Time has a way of healing and improving things, and after almost 7 years of flying solo, I've learned a few things about finding the balance between innate male reactions and the need for a child to have a parent who is present, who is tough when needed but who is also sympathetic. Like going from tag-team wrestling to having to take on the other opponent solo.Worse, in a lot of situations, far from "having your back", your ex can be eagerly waiting to point out your failings, digging that knife in just a bit deeper, while telling the children "daddy has issues, but at least you have me." I think it's tougher on us men, however, because we aren't raised to nurture and be empathetic.I'm going on 30 and I look better now than when I did in my 20s. I accepted this before I left my marriage-I knew as a single Mom I was no longer going to be considered 'the belle of the ball'. Most of your profile seems to concentrate on negative things, or the fact that your kids come first.When I was single and no kids a single parent didnt hold a ton of appeal to me either. I understand that your kids are important, as well they should be, but you're here to meet men.Suddenly life was about a lot more than just being the drill instructor and I didn't know how to handle it. All new because I couldn't rely on mom to be the sympathetic parent.It was rocky, and there were definitely moments I look back on with great sadness and disappointment.I know this is going to sound bad, but it depends on how confident you are or how hot you are, Hot women and confident women with kids has no/ zero/ nada /bupkis problems on getting dates, average women with low or no self esteem, the ones worried about their weight, finances etc, has the most problems with dating. Not so much but I think if the right guy came along I would make an effort but I've always liked my independence and have liked being single so for me there isn't much of a dating difference from when I was single to being a single mother except i'm in better shape now... I didnt have trouble getting asked out, I had trouble managing relationships because I didnt have the time.I get hit on all the time now more than when I was single cuz I have never looked better. I feel positive have a positive attitude and think that goes a long way. Face it, being a parent is a big job, and if you also work full time it is very difficult to sometimes spend the amount of time one needs to cultivate a meaningfull relationship. I couldnt really put an effort into dating until my son was 12-13-ish-basically when his social life stopped revolving around me.Please tell me what your problem was and how you got it changed.I have been trying to get back into the dating game for awhile now and am having some problems.I could have done better, I could have handled them better. Perhaps the journey of man to loving father does require some turbulence along the way.Interestingly, my ex's household was chaos for years because as a single mom she faced the opposite challenge, that she's wonderfully sympathetic and therefore rarely had rules and certainly hated to enforce them or impose consequences for violations. Dave is a Colorado-based father's rights advocate and single father to three fabulous children, now 17, 13 and 10.Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc.