The Old Testament specifically forbids God's people from marrying "foreign wives": "Now therefore, make confession to the LORD God of your fathers and do His will; and separate yourselves from the peoples of the land and from the foreign wives." ( So, the New Testament makes it clear that believers are only to marry fellow believers.Although dating of Christians and non-Christians is not specifically handled in the Bible, it is clear that such an action is asking for trouble.I mean, I'm in a relationship with my boyfriend and God.Well, his Christian God (a God I don't believe in).I have received a few emails from Christians (and even one from a non-Christian) asking if it is okay for a Christian to date or marry an unbeliever.Usually, by the time the question is asked, the relationship has gone far enough that a negative answer is going to be difficult to accept, even if it is the right answer.The Bible is clear that a Christian is never to marry a non-Christian.
On the subject of good, available men, single women in their thirties don't need to be reminded that the pickings are slim. I never thought I would be 34, sharing a cheese soufflé and a bottle of Chablis over dinner with a cherub-like guy who occasionally quotes Jesus.If the unbeliever consents to living with the believer, the believer is to behave in such a way that the unbelieving spouse would want to become a Christian.If the unbeliever leaves the Christian, the Christian is no longer bound to that spouse (1 Corinthians ), If the same concept applies to the case where a non-Christian abandons a Christian, one could conclude that being freed from the marriage allows one to remarry.Such scenarios often occurred in the early church as unbelievers were converting in large numbers.Paul gives specific instruction to believers who are married to unbelievers—stay together!The short answer is "no." However, it is good to examine the scripture behind the answer to understand it more completely, including why such a marriage is a bad idea.The usual answer given the believer is from 2 Corinthians: Do not be bound together [unequally yoked] with unbelievers; for what partnership have righteousness and lawlessness, or what fellowship has light with darkness?An idol is something that is held in higher esteem than God.Since an unbeliever doesn't believe in God, to him everything is an idol, including his relationship with you.A "yoke" was a farm implement that bound two animals together so that they could work together as a team.Modern translations remove the "yoke" and translate the intent of the verse, warning believers, "Do not be bound together with unbelievers." Does this apply to marriage?Included in the list of idols are sexual immorality, impurity, passion, evil desire, and greed. Likewise, the joining of a Christian and a non-Christian joins Christ to an unbeliever.The New Testament goes as far as to warn us not even to eat with idolaters (1 Corinthians ). Bad company corrupts good morals" ( The Bible is actually much more direct about marrying unbelievers than has been indicated to this point.An unbeliever who practices Christian-like morality is going to be attractive to a Christian.