Limiting the time of the first date is a safety precaution: if you end up on a nightmare of a date you’ve already established your “out”.
If on the other hand the date is going excellent, suggest to your date that you extend it.
I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.
It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.
A grown woman (or man if the lady is asking) can decide in a few weeks if she would like to meet you – someone looking for a pen pal should do so somewhere else.
You will be able to judge the situation better as you communicate: sometimes you’ll get a date on your first email, other times you may realize a few weeks of communication would be best.On my first date with my wife, I schedule a one hour date at a diner.After the hour was over, I explained that I only extend the good dates and since ours was a great date asked if she would be up for miniature golf (she was).Honestly, I have never felt comfortable talking on the phone for long periods of time (even to close friends) so I prefer to jump straight from the internet communication to meeting.If you enjoy talking on the phone or prefer to do so before meeting someone, treat this step like you would the first date by asking for the phone number by the third email.Either way you approach it, they won’t mind if they are having a good time.If they you not break your plans you may want to evaluate how well the date is going!Other times, people are just reluctant to meet you because they are still trying to decide if they like you.After a while, any of these cases is a waste of your time.I found that people will not be offended if you suggest a first date before they are ready.In my experience, the other person would offer an excuse but continue communicating.I once talked to a woman for two months before we met.She was very nice and we got along well so I was willing to communicate but let her know I’d be talking to others while she gained comfort.If you really hit it off on the phone (for example, did you talk for two hours without even realizing it? Regardless of the success of the first phone call, I still think the first date should come rapidly so don’t wait too long to move from phone conversations to a real meeting. Hint or specifically state that you can only be out until a certain time.