There is one bright side to being burned by a man like this, and it's this: You are capable of loving someone.You can look another person in the eye and tell him you love him, and you can squeeze that person tightly and make him feel it. And while it's wrong of them to waste your time, just know that this experience only validates that you, my friend, are able to love. In these arrangements, you’ll notice that when one side starts to stray, the other side will undermine them.
At this point, she’s in deep too – she’s invested so much into a relationship that she hopes will someday happen, but has yet to ever make its debut into reality.
On the one hand, he cares for her and wants her around. The rationale he makes in his head is that once he “gets himself together” (that is, he starts actually the things in his life that he intends to do), he’ll break things off with his not-girlfriend all good and tidy and go for the girl he actually wants to be with. most people go their whole lives The girl supports him emotionally and faithfully acts as his crutch so that he can find his strength and become the man he’s always wanted to be.
After all, he feels better when she’s there versus when she’s not. She aims to bring him comfort and relief from his painful and tragic life.
"I'm not just looking for a hookup," he'll say in between sips of wine. A man who truly wants to get married will work with you, while a commitment-phobic man will give up at the first sign of conflict. Because when you spend the majority of your adult life single, you like doing things your way, and these guys have major trouble with change.
He has an answer ready about why he was never married; he hasn't met the right person, or he focused on his career. He won't work things out, he won't compromise, and he won't bend. Suddenly, after months or years of devoting yourself to this person and thinking you're building a future, you're single again wondering WTF just happened.